Letting Go

I know I haven’t posted anything since the summer. Mainly because I’ve been so busy being social. Living in the real world more and less in the virtual world. During this time, I was fortunate to meet someone who made an impression on me. However, recently the relationship ended. The sad part about this break up was that I wasn’t as hurt as the previous ones. I was obviously hurt and sad but not because that it ended horribly but because I’ve been here so many times before that I know the process as if it was a routine. It’s a little depressing to me that I know the different stages of dealing with a break up so well that I have been able to cope and overcome it in a few weeks. Not to say I’m completely healed but I’m fairing better than I have in the past. I guess, right now, I’m just a little more hurt to see him moving on with someone else and it hasn’t even been 3 weeks since we ended. I am really trying my hardest to not put out any negative energy or wish ill will on him so I’m not going to. There’s nothing that will come from that except more anger. I rather focus on what can make me get through the days, months, years of this overly familiar solitude that hovers over my life. Where I went wrong and what I can do to prevent it from occurring again. But first I just need to let go.

Back to square one.

Me, You, and Everyone We Know

I just had the opportunity to watch this movie by Miranda July. Purely Amazing. I love movies like this that just make ponder about everyday things. It made me realize how small the world is but yet we’re just dots in the universe. I just been thinking a lot about the different dynamics we’re in everyday and how we play these different roles. Sometimes we’re pleased with others and sometimes we’re not. We desire certain qualities in people and expect them to be responsive of our needs but for some reason, we’re always falling short. How hard is it to respond to a message? How hard is it to make plans? Why, as people, must we complicate everything in our lives? I don’t know about you, but I always feel like I have to go the extra mile to keep any relationship going. Perhaps we’re all just selfish beings. And when it’s convenient for them, I’ll have a place in their life. It reminds me of the song heavy lifting by Ambulance LTD, “Alone because my friends have places to go. My people have people to know. They’ll never seem so alone.” Yes, this is how it is like to have a conversation with me, I jump from topic to topic.

So, yeah me, you, and everyone we know.

PSM

Why Leave Astoria?

From time to time, I’ll be blogging on Why Leave Astoria? A social networking/blogging/meetup website created by Ran Craycraft. I’m addicted. I had the opportunity to attend a social networking event this past week and have made some new friends in Astoria. Thanks to Ran for creating such an intelligent medium to meet people. Read my latest blog on Arepas at Why Leave Astoria.

Overlooked Music

Lately, I have come to appreciate a band that has been around for several years. They received some short fame by having their song “Paint the Silence” played on The OC but after that they were no where to be found heard. The band I speak of is South. Being that they were formed in the UK, they have similar elements to UK bands such as Blur and Starsailor but still with their own unique melodies. I recently been listening to their albums and have found a new appreciation for them. It’s sad to note that they are an overlooked band in the indie scene.

To learn more about South and check out their music, visit their website. You won’t be disappointed.

PSM

Opinionated

Are men intimidated by opinionated women? Is it wrong to express your thoughts even if the other person is not thrilled to hear them? Of course there is compassion and empathy in everything I say but if I feel strongly about something, I think I should express it. Regardless, if you agree or not.

I’m curious to know what other people think about this.

PSM

Top Three – Week of 07/06/09

The best part of the summer in NYC is all the free events that occur in all the neighborhoods. From outdoor movies, to outdoor concerts, to Street Fairs.

So here are my top three in regards to free events of the summer:

1. Movie Night in Astoria – For the next 2 months, Astoria Park will be hosting a Movie every Monday. They have a good selection too. So bring a lawn chair or a blanket, some snacks, and friends and relax to a movie with the sunsetting in the background. Myself, I would like to check out Wall-E.

2. Shakespeare in the Park – I’ve seen three Shakespeare plays in Central Park in the last 4 years (Hamlet, Macbeth, and A Midnight Summers Dream) and each time I’ve had a blast. I will be waiting in line 6am in the morning this Sunday to get tickets for 12fth night. It’s the last night to catch it. I’m excited!

3. Free Concerts – I have yet to catch one of these. I have been to the Siren Festival back in 2007 but I would like to either check out one of the River to River shows or South Street Seaport Events. Perhaps a show at Prospect Park or the Pool Parties, now hosted at the Waterway in Williamsburg.

Anyway, if you live in NYC, remember to take advantage of all the free events that occur around the city this summer before it’s too late and it’s Winter again.

PSM

Friends

I don’t know about you but I sometimes have trouble maintaining friendships. It may be because we’re all so busy but it may be also because some people just aren’t good friends. I have a few good friends who I’ve been friends with for years now. They remember to call me and catch up or make plans to meet up. I return the gesture as well. But then there are friends who I go great lengths for and get shit on. Often they are females. I never have problems maintaining friendships with any of my male friends. I really wish I could have the male bonding that males have with their other male friends. A Bromance if you may. I don’t have friends I can meet up with every week and just do everything and nothing with them. I have many acquaintances and many people to meet up with here and there but I haven’t had a strong bond with someone since I was in high school. Some people think it’s good to have many friends so that you have a different crowd every week but I rather have a few friends who I have a strong bond with. If I try, I get taken advantage of or am disappointed with their behavior. Stop being so dramatic and childish. So I’m curious with all those strong friendships, how does one go about developing a strong non-sexual bond with someone? I could use the input.

“BORDEAUX”

This is amazing! This video was created using 15,000 still images using the cast of heroes. I really like the song playing in the background. It’s a 5 minute long video. Check it out!

Via Zachary Quinto

He’s Just Not That Into You

So I had a chance to watch this movie this evening and may I say how much the movie reflected my own dating experiences in NYC. The movie focused on both the male and female perspective of dating and being in relationships. It’s so amazing how often females obsess over a guy and how often men have females wrapped around their finger. You men are pretty clever at giving us mixed signals. Not sure what point the movie was trying to make though. My interpretation of it was that females need to stand up for themselves and their beliefs to get the guy and eventually find love. I don’t think that works in reality though. No matter how honest and confident I am, I rarely get that second or third date. I have gotten over the obsessive quirks that many females possess but this mainly because of online dating. There is always someone else to talk to or make plans with. Or maybe I’ve just become a pro at dating and get the hints quicker so I know when to focus or not. Anyway, I would recommend this movie to everyone, whether you are single, dating, or in a relationship. It’s not a great movie but the one liners are great and you may get some insight on dating. I think everyone can relate.

SV, see I told you I post again! BTW, you should definitely check out this movie! You will get a kick out of it.

PSM

Top Three – 06/29/09

Here are my top Three for this week:

1) Music – Telekinesis – Seattle Band with very catchy songs with very catchy melodies. You may want to dance to some songs and lounge to others but you definitely will want to sing along with every song. My favorite is Coast of Carolina. Overall, a good album by a good band. Thanks to NV for telling me about them. Definitely check them out!

2) Brunch – Counter – Great place that offers both vegan and non-vegan brunch options. Non-vegan brunch options are made with organic products. Instead of butter, you get some kind of flavored creamy oil spread. I had raspberry this past Sunday. Oh, and they offer a brunch special, which means you can either a mimosa or sangria. Brunch special is about $13 but definitely worth it! Everything tastes so fresh and so delicious. The decor is nice but kind of dark. Overall it is a spacious restaurant that serves some damn delicious food. Still have to try dinner there though.

3) Bakery – Birdbath – Build a Green Bakery – Amazing cookies, scones, muffins, croissants, and coffee. Offers vegan options as well. My favorite is the Peanut Butter Cookie! The staff members (barista) are also very pleasant. There is one in the east village and one in the west village. Oh and they are completely green!

Why 3? Because 5 is too plenty and 1 is just not enough. Anyway, if you have a moment, check out any of these fabulous top 3′s for a good time or hell make it a day and check them all out!

Until next time…
PSM